What Is Marriage?

Books would say…

A marriage is an interpersonal relationship with governmental, social, or religious recognition, usually intimate and sexual, and often created as a contract.The most frequently occurring form of marriage unites a man and a woman as husband and wife. ...

A marriage is the state of being a married couple voluntarily joined for life (or until divorce); "a long and happy marriage"...

President George W. Bush said “Marriage is a sacred institution between a man and a woman.”...

Former Senate Minority Leader Tom Daschle said “The word ‘marriage’ means only a legal union between one man and one woman as a husband and wife.”…

Former President Bill Clinton said “I have long opposed governmental recognition of same-gender marriages.”

Senator Rick Santorum said “Marriage between a man and a woman is vital to the stability and preservation of our society in which a father and a mother raise and nurture children.”…

Here's what I say:

When I was single, my perception of marriage is very simple. I believe about "soul mate", the right man/woman will cross each others way at the right time... at "God's time". Two people made for each other. Though there were questions on the top of my head "When is the right Time?", How would a person know it is the right time? There are spaces in between for there are no science who can give right explanations.

But another thing crosses on my mind, that everything in our Life is a "Matter of Choice". God will give us different situations that's up to us to decide what is the best... and in every choice we have chosen, there’s always be consequences. That’s why it would be better to weigh things “million times” before making or jumping into any conclusions or decisions. Was that what I did???

Ok here's more: how does a human being could balance “mind and emotions”? How would you know it’s an infatuation or Love” That’s another thing to ask… One more thing does experienced helps? How can someone so sure when he/she said "I Love You" if you haven't live together to know her/him deeper?...There are some relationships that’s based on physical attractions, intimacy and security. Questions - “Where’s Love???”

Love usually develops and become stronger when you know the person deeper… and somehow, most of the time, we only know the “real person” after marriage... in some period of time... and find out "real him/her" is not what we expect and dreamed about…(I know someone who said "They've been married for 45years with 5 kids and yet, still don't know her husband very well...why??? because they were both working and see each other after work when they goes home)...it’s up to you on how you would react to what you’ve discovered about your partner...how you would manage to accept that “fact”… would be love stronger???

The bottom line is...“marriage takes two to tango” which I believe so, both sides should make effort to sustain marriage. Be fair to one another, respect each other and above all "God" on the center....